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tamarap

Relationships

I have a question to ask people's advice on. In Aug 2008 I was diagnosed with MS from an episode in optic neuritis. I got married in Sept 2008 (planned a year before) to my seemingly supportive husband. In Aug 2010 I had to part from my husband as he said "MS wasn't what he signed for". At the time my daughters were 4 months and 2 1/2 years old. I felt I had no choice but to leave him as I couldn't trust that if my health deteriorated in the future he wouldn't be the person to support me. I consider my health to be quite good and although I require support during relapses, I am self sufficient. I noticed things going wrong when he wouldn't go to consultants appointment with me, MRI scans or tell his family when I was sick - like he was embarrassed. When I told my neurologist he told this happens quite often. Enough of what sounds like a sob story (it's really not ment to) but I wonder how people have got to starting new relationships after diagnosis? I feel like it would be a lot to try to explain as the future is so unpredictable.
@reens

It's quite a tricky one, I think there will be risk in either option of telling the person from the get go or waiting and telling them later on because like you say its unpredictable what the future holds, even if the new guy asked what you expect from him you couldn't really give an answer apart from being there for you. Sorry couldn't actually help in terms of experience, hope you find someone who will go through sickness and health with you, as they promised!

@scotkiwi

Evening <a href='https://shift.ms/community/people/Tamara/' rel='nofollow'>@Tamara</a>, Yes unfortunately I too have a similar story. I was engaged to someone I thought was wonderful. Unfortunately she didnt turn out to be as I thought, so I called it all off. I now struggle massively with trust and being close to anyone which is frustrating. I have made it my goal to learn to trust ppl again this year, but slowly does it... Wishing you health and happiness. Simon