@danigirl01978 

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danigirl01978

Feeling stupid!!

Hi all, Felt I really need to throw this question to all the girls out there. Have any of you had to admit defeat and hang up your heals for good and stick to flats? Since my diagnosis I havent really been out but I have got a slight balance issue and before I knew I had ms if I was out with friends I always used to have a fall whether I had one drink or loads and used to wear some gorgeous stilettos, platforms etc and put it down to being clumsy and friends used to think it funny. So since my diagnosis I decided wedges would be the way to go to give me height as I am rather vertically challenged and to hopefully give me more balance. So then last night I completely ruined a night out with my hubby, best friend and her hubby. Walking along after having a lovely meal and only a couple of drinks, holding hubbys hand next thing you know I am on the deck and took hubby with me, it happened right outside a busy pub entrance and I must have looked wrecked with the way I went down, to make matters worse it seemed to take ages for my legs to want to let me get up again. We managed to head to another pub but as you can imagine by this point I had lost any interest in having a good time and felt very ashamed, everyone was lovely but I just felt so stupid. My besty seems to think that if I am safer in flats then to give up and wear flats from now on, but I am only 33 and dont feel I want to be stuck in flats forever yet. I now have two very badly bruised knees the left is extremely bad and a bruised left wrist. So the question is do I give in and get rid of any heals even though I recently bought loads of lovely wedges in the hope they would be ok? Or as I fear the answer is as clear as the nose on my face? Sorry probably sounds like a stupid thing to stress and worry about! xx
@bubblesgalore

Ow I do really sympathise. I havent given up on my high heels,but they have been more of a block heel rather than stilettos. I have fallen over in heels and flats, with drink and without drink. I am very reluctant to give up my heels as I would wear them even to go day shopping. If the heels go, then its taken another part of me and Im not ready to go there yet. Balance is still a major issue for me, as are tremors in my legs, but this would happen even if I were bare footed... Dont give up your heels/wedges.... its definitely not in my vocab ..... yet.. take care xx

@reddivine

Bow to the inevitable and go for safety rather than the Sex In The City look. I too have had to give up heels, even small ones. I can't fasten shoes and have to go for velcro fastenings now. a smaller gene pool of available shoes, yes BUT there are nice ones out there. Its nearly summer and sandals, even flat ones will be IN so theres the upside. I too hate falling and it rakes me forever to get up. Get others to do the "carrying of drinks" bit. Its better than spilling or tripping, which i was doing. Even in coffee shops, i ask for assistance.....tis better than losing half in the saucer!!