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HeidiHelps

Self-Determination (or lack thereof)

This is an example of a fictional client who is low in self-determinism. Her name is Jenny and Jenny has no motivation to recover from her depression, although she says she wants to overcome her depression. During her daily routine, Jenny doesn’t accept responsibility for her behaviours, eg sleeping all day, eating junk food and not exercising. Jenny doesn’t believe she has control over any aspect of her own life. Jenny firmly believes the problems she has in life are either somebody else’s fault, or were caused by some force outside her control. Jenny doesn’t believe that she has control over any aspect of her own life. When she is confronted with challenges, for example her mobile home is falling apart, she feels¬¬¬¬¬ that she can’t overcome those challenges due to her own limitations, unfortunate circumstances or plain, bad luck. She relies solely on help from outside sources in her family, friends or society to help her avoid taking action. In other words, she waits day after day for somebody to come along and fix her mobile home, rather than taking any action to solve the problem herself. She prefers not to make attempts to help herself because she is sure she will fail in meeting them. This scenario is unfortunately true for many chronic illness sufferers, who wait for help from outside sources rather than relying on their own strengths and abilities to help themselves through negative situations. Yes! We MS/Parkinson’s/Cancer, etc patients were dealt a rotten hand in the card game of life BUT always have control over our attitude about our situation.
@Matilda1

I have high self-determination in general, but with MS it gets low when it comes to exercising and I don't see improvement despite the effort I have put in. How to be motivated when there is no results?

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@MattSussex

Hmmm…really hard to know how to unpack this. I’m not sure whether it was meant to feel inspirational or educational. I’ve spent a lifetime being the most positive guy in the room and never really experienced any mental health issues. But MS changed all that pretty much overnight. I’d love to say that I’m in control of my attitude but, quite simply, I’m not, much like I’m not in control of the pains in my chest, my fatigue or the way my legs feel each day when I wake up. Externally I’ve maintained my FT leadership position, my positive attitude and most people don’t notice my condition at all. Internally (and with other MSers) I guess it’s still nice just to acknowledge things can feel rubbish, I’m not well and life is hard. I’m really glad you have such control over your attitude and I do know what you are trying to say. But I don’t want anyone suffering with depression to feel they can cheer up because they are told to or that they can’t share with others just how hard it is to feel optimistic some days. For me empathy trumps sympathy or instruction every time. It’s ok sometimes not to feel ok.

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