@Shillam81 

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Shillam81

MS and relationships.

I was diagnosed with RRMS in March 2022, after having Covid-19, 6 times in 8 months. Since diagnosis, things are progressively getting worse, such as my cognitive function, speech, tiredness, and pain. My memory is terrible now to the point where I am repeating my sentences over and over again, and my husband doesn't understand that I don't mean to repeat everything and says I'm constantly bothering him and pestering him. I just don't know what to do as I feel I'm fighting a losing battle with him, but I love him dearly. Any advice appreciated.
@Syrama

I recommend Gabor Mate, Somatic therapy, Esther Perel, and john gottman. I’m sorry for your struggles. The behavior you described from your partner is alarming and sounds like he doesn’t trust you or have the ability to show empathy. Watching Teal Swan on YouTube or her books can also be useful. Best.

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@Shiftms

Hi there @Shillam81 👋 We understand that having multiple sclerosis can sometimes bring up questions and challenges in our relationships, and it's great that you're reaching out for support. @Syrama has mentioned some brilliant relationship resources, in particular Esther Perel! It's important to remember that everyone's experience with MS is different, and what works for one person may not work for another. That being said, some things that have worked for some people in managing their relationships while living with MS include: * Communicating openly and honestly with their partner about their needs and any changes in their symptoms or treatment * Setting boundaries and making time for self-care to manage fatigue and other symptoms * Seeking support from friends, family, or a therapist to process any emotions or challenges that may come up * Exploring different ways to connect and be intimate with their partner, whether that be physically or emotionally * We hope this is helpful and encourage you to keep reaching out for support. Remember, you don't have to go through this alone. Take care, The Shift.ms Team 💚