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Shtanto

Dating and being single

Well now here's one we've all likely come up against. I've been single a wee while now and got to thinking about the implications of dating. First off is the 'married a carer' problem, where you find a perfectly reasonable life partner and everything goes well and you put them in an awful lurch when they end up becoming your carer and not your spouse. So that'd put me off dating, leave me single and miserable and solve no problems. But then you get the other problem - who would love an MSer? Plenty as it turns out. As long as you know how to disclose. Online dating is a complete minefield in this respect. And of course, this is MS, so every so often you have to try and remember who the heck you are. Easily forgotten, especially for me. Neurologist next week, so maybe I'll ask :D Dating though - whom shall I marry? The dating agencies tend to only go for people who have jobs (aka not me) and I can't really afford them anyway with the circumstances I'm in. I can forget about rent and living alone. Mortgage? Not likely. I suppose the realites can easily begin to sound like pessimism. How then do we prove Chuck Palahniuk wrong? Any dating site recommendations? I'm on Bumble, OkC, PoF, Tinder and Happn. So far, nothing back yet.
@Julesds1977

Hey! I know what you mean about the whole dating thing. I’m a single Mum, have been for the last 12 years! I was dating a guy last year but he was a nightmare, I ended it just before I got my MS diagnosis. He couldn’t cope with me being ill so I fully realised I was better on my own. I’m at the point now where I’m not sure if I’ll bother again 🙄 Online dating is a minefield. I’ve tried it and blokes seem to run a mile when you decide to tell them you have MS. Or they ask really stupid questions like “is it catching?” 😱😂 That said. You are doing well with being on those sites. I fully believe if you keep going then you will eventually find the one! I’m just giving myself a break from it at the minute!

@Shtanto

Is it catching... ah haer I don't mind that so much but I'm having trouble with the omerta women on the sites seem to maintain. Ah sure what would they say really? It's all to risk and little to gain. The dating agencies aren't much better. They'll find ways around it and do not a lot for you, but I sometimes think we all know what's really going on