@Juliapinkie1 

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Juliapinkie1

Work/partner-things

Hello all, on this sun-drenched-friday-afternoon. But in spite of the weather, i'm so angry. Just now my partner told me that the newest workshops we are setting up, are given to another teacher. By him, btw. I have made such an efford to prepare the whole technical side, not to mention i have the papers and experience. But he says he doesn't remember ANY conversation about this. WTF, i looked you in the eye! Multiple times, weeks ago! We even took a train, to check out this concept way over on the other side of the country. The idea is to have an "open-class" on decorating of-and paiting on ceramics. But he got spooked, thinks i will have to much bad ms-days and will be a no-show. And, if you believe, this is the second time he did this! Even posted about it. I feel rejected, put aside, not that important, sooo angry& upset. I don't even have a history doing the things he's afraid of! I don't know how to handle this. He says he cannot tell the other woman, and i quote: "I can't Just say , well, it seems my girlfriend wants in on it too, so you have to step aside". Well, thats exáctly what you must do! Don't put me in sone kind of disabled-girlfriend-box. What to do now?
@MattSussex

Well, you vented, now it’s time to talk to him calmly and honestly about it. My guess is he will be too afraid of big emotional clashes to tell the truth but you need to hear him. There was a reason and deep down I bet he had your interest at heart. If he didn’t then you’re with the wrong guy, full stop. If he did then you can calmly let him know how his mistake made you feel. But you also have to accept he might have been right too. I’m learning to trust my wife and my PA to tell me when to step back, when not to do everything, how to ask for help. I’m not as good as I used to be at judging my own ability or how I come across. But mostly, like you, I feel I can do everything and I know it hurts when I get mollycoddled or patronised. In my head I’m still 30 years old pre MS and mostly that positivity serves me well. You can get through this!

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@MattSussex

And apologies if it’s me now sounding patronising…that won’t help at all…

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