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Effect of Stress

Everyone says 'avoid stress'. Easier said than done. Does anyone have evidence where stress, self-induced by the work-aholics amongst us or from external factors, has brought on a relapse? Either in addition to drugs or in its own right. I've seen the advice on how to avoid stress but it's like my wife has so buried herself in her work to give herself something to do, it's causing her more stress than ever. I don't want it to bring on a relapse but I cannot get her to see this; she thinks we are reacting too protectively of her since her diagnosis. I don't deny that is true (mostly inadvertently), but it is with good reason. Any advice????
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@MamaWals
@MamaWals
 

Well there is no way to prove what causes relapses and symptoms to occur. However, my relapses have occurred when I was under tremendous stress. So maybe? I’ll be honest. Right now the majority of my stress comes from my family. I love them but when things at home are too stressful (I have three kids who like to whine and scream a lot right now) I do sometimes stay at work an extra hour or go in early to escape it. If you’re being “overprotective” that may be stressing her out more than working. My suggestion is to back off. The number one reason I haven’t told my family, aside from my husband, about my diagnosis because I know their concern would stress me out.

@EdmontonAlberta
@EdmontonAlberta
 

@seb80 "she thinks we are reacting too protectively of her since her diagnosis" If she thinks so - then you are... For me, nothing is worse than being treated differently. I want life to be normal; it isn't yet I am the person I was before MS came into my life. Be aware that she might say no or ask to have things adjusted. Other than that, treat her the way you always have... Dinners with friends, movies, walks, shopping, etc... If she enjoyed them before - she still does! She will laugh at the same things; cry at the same things. She is the same person you married. Just make sure she knows you are on her side; if something needs to be cut short because of MS, all she needs to do is mention that to you. All she wants is life to be normal & know you are on her side...