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@simon2016 

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simon2016

Seriously annoyed and very low

Hi I'm seriously annoyed and on a low eb now. I thought my partner would understand what ms is. I thought he new what the symptoms are. But it's all been slammed back in my face it's my fault the relationship has broke down its my fault I don't want to do any as being exhausted a lot of the time, it's my fault for everything. I don't need this kinda stress not at the moment as I no it will bring a relapse on. And to top it all I have now somehow got to try to get to my appointments, I have no car as I'm not around to drive.i really could do with out all this stress. Seriously fed up with it......
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@Stumbler
@Stumbler
 

@simon2016 , I understand exactly how you feel. Our partners have limited understanding of what we are dealing with 24/7. We just have to acknowledge that our MS is also causing pain to our partners. They don't like to see us how we are, don't know how to make it better and don't know how to behave with us. MS is a disruptive influence in any relationship. If there is any weakness in the relationship, MS will exploit it and make it worse. Let's get one thing straight, this isn't all your fault. You never asked for MS, but we try and do what we can. You're right, you don't need this stress, so give yourself sometime to calm down from this upset. Then, concentrate on this relationship. See if you want to save the relationship and see what you can do about it. Do come back and use this forum to let off steam. It's best to do that here, where we understand, rather than create an atmosphere at home.

@LM24
@LM24
 

Hi, I can relate to what you are saying unfortunately I separated from my husband in the summer despite him knowing I had MS when we got married and he took the vow in sickness and in health and all that in the end he just couldn't cope with it. He said 'HE' got frustrated that we couldn't do social things like we used to do and he didn't feel strong enough to support me with my worsening symptoms. In a way I respected his honesty but also felt I was being punished for having this illness when I didn't ask for it. It turns out he's a pretty selfish guy and I was a burden for him. Six months on and I've moved back to my home town for family support, my whole life has been uprooted but I'm happy and content . Now I can nap when I want to and not make excuses for things I don't have the energy to do. I don't have to make a huge effort to disguise my drop foot when walking around the house etc. I haven't had a big relapse brought on from the stress, don't get me wrong it's taken it's toll with the stress and I've had bad fatigue and worsening mobility but nothing major. The past 6 months have been the toughest 6 months emotionally but I realise now him not being able to cope with my MS was only making me worse and I'm better off on my own. Have you got family or friends nearby who can help out with lifts to appointments? Moving cities was massive for me but it was what I needed to do so I have the support I need and deserve. Good luck and stay positive!