@sarah_irwin , you could try this scheme and see if they could cover the cost of a cleaner, etc.:-

https://www.gov.uk/access-to-work

My sympathys. I'm retired and couldn't possibly do both now - can't remember the names of plants!!. @stumbler, as usual, has useful advice, hope it helps. Despite having some help and not working - maybe cos of it - my house it still a mess 😉. Don't stress, it won't help. Just 'align yourself with the circumstances' as someone famous - whose name I also can't remember - once said. I try and it works..... mostly. It has to. We order grocery stuff online weekly ( or fortnightly ) for home delivery - would that help you? Likewise the odd freezer meals? I see you have 2 children... would they help? Sorry I can't be more constructive...xx

@sarah_irwin yes, totally, and I'm only working part time with one child, and an amazing partner, yet I can't cope, I tried to keep it all together but wondering if im kidding and destroying myself slowly. Take care x

@sarah_irwin  I totally understand, lucky my other half does quite a bit but its me that has to remember or feels like I am moaning!, the dogs need walking and time but I seem to be going to work get home eat tea then have about an hour with dogs then bed for me!! I am hoping I will get a bit better and sorted as I work out what is best for me, I can't really cut my hours at work either.  My family knows what's going on so to be honest its only my pride in wanting a nice / tidy house so it's me that has to get over it, other half doesn't care!
I think it's a case of putting it all in prospective and you can do what you can do and some days will be better than others.
Yes shopping delivery to home as well, it's every little counts time - for me changed my car to an auto just to take the little bit off me also as it's about 40 min drive to work.
so see if there is any little bits that could help
but smile and chin up :-)

Thank you everyone for your comments. Its so nice to know its not just me. My problem is my husband does nothing around the house, my daughter is disabled and my son is a moody teenager. I think aswell that i am trying to fight my MS rather than go with it. I just cant afford to reduce my hours ... it all makes me rather depressed and worried 😟

Although it will be hard, you need to discuss this with your husband and moody teenager :).  I'm going through the same thing at the moment (although my children are too young to help much at 4, 6 and 8) and my husband does seem to find it really hard to grasp that he is just as responsible as me for the house/family and needs to do more.  We are actually seeing a guidance counselor as I didn't feel able to cope on my own with having the discussions and my husband is not forthcoming with his opinions or emotions.

Your family need to support you more when you need it.

My husband does a lot round the house now, but it's been a bumpy journey getting to this point - lots of me asking him to do particular things and him gradually taking responsibility.  I did have one tearful discussion with him, where I said that I felt I am a burden and he was really upset for making me feel like that.  My teenagers do stuff if my husband's away - they have to because I can't even carry food to the microwave these days.  If my husband is around, the teenagers don't do much sometimes and my husband doesn't make them.  This isn't how I would want things to be, but all marriages are about compromise.
I hope you can get some help using the link above.  Whether you can or not, talking to your husband and son about what is going on, and asking them to suggest solutions to the problems you are experiencing, is vital.  You need to be specific.  Tell them - "I find doing the washing for the family is wearing me out.  I'm also struggling with planning meals, shopping for them and cooking."  From my experience, even grumpy teenagers can understand that the family is a unit and that no-one should be a servant for the others.
Anyway, my message is that talking to your family about these issues is vital.  The other thing to say (again from experience) is that your husband and son won't do things exactly how you want them and that doesn't matter.  If you thank them for a shoddily done job, they'll be prepared to do it again (and they might even do it better, but don't hold your breath for that.

@sarah_irwin add MS and this is even more relevant (sorry it's a bit long) https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/
I find brain space limited, so little things that seem easy for others can be very tiring just having to think about them, let alone having to actually do them ! 

Since diagnosis I've kept a look-out for gadgets that make life easier - a cordless carpet sweeper that's very lightweight and almost as powerful as a vacuum cleaner (avoids carrying heavy weights and trips/falls over the flex); washing hanger frames with integrated pegs (you can peg small garments sitting down), then hook the frame over the washing line (avoids stretching and manoeuvring around the washing line); hand rail on the wall side of my stairs: if I'm really tired I can use both hands to drag myself upstairs); trolley to transport crockery, cutlery and food from kitchen to dining room); iron/ironing board storage fitment (screwed to the wall of a cupboard, makes it easier and safer to replace iron and board after use); long-handled dustpan and attached brush (don't have to bend down to collect what's been swept up); eye-level oven; auto defrost fridge and freezer; garden kneeler with metal sides (makes gardening safer and comfier) and it will invert into a stool so win-win; walking poles kept in the car (for unexpected times when required to walk somewhere unknown/hazardous). Would you be able to apply for a Blue Badge? That would certainly help to reduce fatigue. xx

I totally understand.  My husband is pretty helpful but at times seems totally clueless.   He asks me nearly every single night "why are you going to bed so early?"  It's 8:30 -- and I'm not sleeping, I'm reading.  Most nights I don't fall asleep until 10-11pm, well after he's gone to bed, and I get up before him too.  So he should really just shut it but he can't seem to.

But yes, the house is messy or my job is a disaster.  I can't have both areas of my life working beautifully.  And this weekend we're going camping & all I can think about is how much work it is.  It's meant to be a relaxing weekend but it's stressful and all I can think about is yet another weekend going to go by when nothing gets done around the house - which means I'll be doing it next week, while trying to work (and of course my husband is gone 2 nights next week).  But if I cancel, I'll get an earful of grief from my mother - who is also coming with us --  who will tell me "but you need to relax and not just do chores all the time."  Has she forgotten what camping with children is like??!!!???  She thinks a camping trip is relaxing for me???  She is nuts.

Sorry - that ended up being a rant!  I just wanted to say I totally understand.  I'm trying to learn how to manage both working full time & taking care of a household with a crappy memory & no energy, and now, lucky me, spasticity in my legs & neck.
    

Hi everyone, 
Its such a comfort knowing im not alone ...what a brilliant support you all are
Thank you x

Stress is a killer for us.
For me, family stress is the worst. No easy solutions there. 
I had a couple paragraphs of stuff I delete for this  only line.   Minimize stress through the things you can control; not including people.  Oh and if you don't like leaving dirty dishes behind, you could always bring them with. Laugh. 

Hello,
Does anyone else struggle with full time work and running a home.
I seem to be able to either work and the house ends up a total mess or i keep my house nice and are too worn out to cope at work. 
I want and need to reduce my hours but cant afford to. My MS is deteriorating and i feel like i cant cope really 
Sarah

Work life balance!