different help in england when handicap
HI I have been living in France for the last 20 years but since my MS is wors and my partner left last year my daugter has been looking after me but our relationship is now very diffcult to live together we was all going to live in a large house togerher but she cant cope any more im feel so anger, mad cant believe with all the stress of last year its happening again so i could stop here infrance the care when you are handicapped is very good but just wanted to know what was like in England sorry for the long message but i just feel lost i know i have carry on but its so she my only child
It is difficult for healthy family members to live together long term. Even more difficult when one is ill and in need of more caregiving. It’s not your fault. Will pray for the healing of your relationship. I am in the US, so not able to answer your question. But I can empathize with the idea of one day perhaps living with a family member and seeing how straining that could be on us both. Make sure your child knows that ANY caregiver would suffer stress and strain. Your relationship shouldn’t depend on whether or not she can manage this. Don’t be mad at her because she can’t do it. Hopefully, she can see that your love isn’t conditional upon her ability to do this. My prayers are with you today, as a parent who may one day face something similar.
I'm so sad for you that you've had this to deal with. If you feel at home in France, then it seems to me that coming to England would be a huge upheaval on top of everything else you are already going through. I suspect the care here (UK) is no better than it is in France, and it's possibly worse, with chronic staff shortages and underfunding etc. There are of course some wonderful people in the NHS who do everything possible to help, but the system is at breaking point and can be very hard to navigate. My dad lived with us for 4yrs before he needed a care home, so I've seen a fair bit of it from the perspective of a carer as well as being a patient myself. I love our NHS and wouldn't be alive without it, but it's a very long way from perfect and in many ways it's barely functioning these days (oooh I'm sounding older by the day!!). You will of course be made very welcome here, but don't come for the sake of our healthcare, or I think you'll be very disappointed. I hope you're able to make the decision that's right for your circumstances, which only you know the details of. I also hope very much that, whether or not you move country, you and your daughter can reach some sort of reconciliation in time.