Empathy limitations?
Hello everyone, I've got a question on my mind, it's not really screaming to get out, but I would love to know if I'm on my own with this. Has anybody ever got the idea that their wife/husband has a limit to their empathy? Don't misunderstand, I've got a great marriage/family but just occasionally I get the idea that my wife doesn't quite understand say, perhaps, my mental health. I am very lucky that my ms is a mild form of spms, however, due to the delivery of diagnosis, the mental impact was somewhat shocking, and it's taking me quite a while to come to terms with it. I'm quite strong really, but you know the old rollercoaster of emotions. I guess I just feel a bit lost in my own mind, not quite knowing what to think about all sorts of things, any ideas? Brendan.
Hi @brendan, it's good that you appreciate this situation. MS may be our condition, but it does have a knock-on effect with the whole family. Being concerned is good as this will prevent you taking your wife too much for granted. Diagnosis is a major shock to everything we hold dear and does take some time to fully comprehend as we navigate the whole spectrum of emotions. As has constantly been said, we are on a journey so we just have to make sure that our partner joins us on that journey and is not left isolated. Hope this helps.
Hi Stumbler, thanks for your input. I know the only thing that will help at the moment is time, and more of it. It feels like being in the sea at about chest deep and the swell occasionally takes you off your feet, when you are out of your depth physically you are swimming around emotionally too. I'm early days yet, only told last Nov that I've had it for 27 years without knowing. Don't worry, I don't take my wife for granted. I know I'm very lucky in many ways especially in relation to others on here, for that I am very grateful! Brendan.