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AnnaKonuh

be addicted to alcohol

I do not know if anyone has encountered such a problem. But when I go home, I often wonder if there is alcohol at home ... I want a drink ... Is this normal? I feel better after drinking alcohol, forget about my diagnosis .... But I'm afraid that I will soon be addicted to alcohol .... And I'm afraid😕

cammo

@cammo

@annakonuh I have this problem too. If there is alcohol in the house I will drink it. The best option I have found is to not have alcohol in the house. The effort to go to the shop and buy alcohol is sometimes enough for me to just say "ehhh... I'll just have a cup of tea"... sometimes.

AnnaKonuh

@AnnaKonuh

@cammo I also think so often, but so far I can’t stop. When I understand that there is no alcohol at home, I think, “Well, the evening is ruined” ... And I’m going to the store ...

cammo

@cammo

@annakonuh better than a heroin addiction I guess. For a while I had success switching to alcohol free beers. The placebo effect is quite surprising and it seems a lot of breweries are offering 0% alcohol options. Heineken just released a decent one and there are a lot of German 0% beers out there as it is popular in Europe. The alcohol free wine is fairly rubbish but will do in a pinch. Could be worth a go.. I also went to see a psychologist about it and she suggested if I always drink in the evenings, try drinking first thing in the morning. See how weird that feels. etc etc... I never took up her suggestion as I work for an alcohol free employer who regularly does random breathalyzing... didn't feel like losing my job.

Rel12

@Rel12

Hi @annakonuh! Ugh it definitely can happen especially when people are just trying not to think much of their diagnosis. It is okay to have your time or moment when dealing with it but it wouldn't be good if it becomes a habit. I know for me drinking has always been a thing especially where I grew up + my party life. I would not have control of it and realized it was not good and would also mess with my symptoms once I was diagnosed. It can help forget about things at the moment but try and think about the bad that it could do. Also, it would not be good to fall into an addiction. It would also help to not have any liquor at the house or when going out just having a beer instead of stronger liquor. Wish you the best :)

Stumbler

@Stumbler

@annakonuh , you see this as a problem, hence you mentioning it. What does your husband feel about this?

Adrianna_K

@Adrianna_K

@annakonuh Alcohol may seem like a good, easy idea...but it leads to a downward spiral. Have you tried the CAGE questionnaire? Answer truthfully and perhaps it may give you some clarity to your situation: 1. Have you ever felt you needed to Cut down on your drinking? 2. Have people Annoyed you by criticizing your drinking? 3. Have you ever felt Guilty about drinking? 4. Have you ever felt you needed a drink first thing in the morning (Eye-opener) to steady your nerves or to get rid of a hangover? In any case, seeing a medical professional is a great idea, and you shouldn't feel embarrassed or guilty of it. Recognize that you may need help and take the next step! Here's rooting for you xx

SophieShift

@SophieShift

Hi @annakonuh I think this risk assessment is helpful: https://yourroom.health.nsw.gov.au/games-and-tools/Pages/risk-assessment-tool.aspx It has come out of the NSW Department of Health and has been verified by health professionals and experts.

AnnaKonuh

@AnnaKonuh

@stumbler Yes, I see this as a problem. I know that I can’t always stop. Only when I understand that “I finally felt good, I forgot about all the problems”, I stop ... It can be after one bottle of whiskey or wine (or two bottles). My husband does not like it, he says that I am an alcoholic and just asks me to drink alcohol at home ... because I am under supervision, because many times he had to take a taxi and go pick me up from the bar. Perhaps, outwardly, you cannot tell me that I have an addiction, I sometimes try to restrain myself ... During the MSsessions19 in Bucharest, when I realized that I’m now in a foreign country, I don’t know the language of this country and not very well I speak English, but I'm already drunk, and if I continue to drink further (which I really wanted), then I can not get to the hotel. I decided that was enough for me, and left with the first people who were going to leave for the hotel ...

Stumbler

@Stumbler

@annakonuh , "........after one bottle of whiskey....."!!! You're joking!! The following paper researched alcohol problems in the Ukraine :- https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6734863/ This is a problem and you need to start addressing it now.

AnnaKonuh

@AnnaKonuh

@adrianna_k My answers to your questions: 1) yes 2) yes 3) yes 4) perhaps, but in the morning I drink sedatives to calm my nerves. I turned to a psychologist but she did not help me

AnnaKonuh

@AnnaKonuh

@sophieshift Thanks for the link, I passed the test twice, both times High risk ....😕

AnnaKonuh

@AnnaKonuh

@stumbler Well, the fact that Ukraine and Russia are the most drinking countries in the world has long been known .. An article about what people drink because of economic problems. I am due to the totality of all the problems ... Economics, diagnosis of multiple sclerosis, unknown in the future. More precisely, a great fear of this future. I do not know how to handle this.

Stumbler

@Stumbler

@annakonuh , I can assure you that we all have fears for the future. But should we be abandoning our future, by destroying the present? Think about that, please...........

AnnaKonuh

@AnnaKonuh

@stumbler Do you know why I love this particular forum? At Shift.ms they don’t blame me for weaknesses, they just support me and help me with advice. Therefore, I prefer to ask for advice or help here, rather than in the Ukrainian forum. Thank you very much.😉

Stumbler

@Stumbler

Together we are strong, @annakonuh . 😉

Adrianna_K

@Adrianna_K

@annakonuh Please be strong and get help. Alcoholism is a disease, just like MS and it warrants help! Don't be afraid or ashamed. Sending prayers xx

seanachai

@seanachai

Hi Its brave of you to ask that question.... I think the use of the word alcoholism may possibly be a bit strong at this point... as for questionnaires, these things while well intention-ed are in my opinion a bit odd, just answer them honestly ! really... (bearing in mind your unconscious or conscious bias is in play whether you like it or not)... e.g. you don't want to hear the wrong answer....Try answering the questionnaires on the sociopath or psychopath honestly and let me know where you are too... :-) Humor aside it sounds to me like you know you are in grey area... As some have mentioned, recent traumatic events stress ... temporary relaxation, alcohol, medicine etc.. whatever.... a lot of people need that as a temporary fix... But I think that should dissipate over a relatively short period of time especially if you have the right support around you, if not .. then maybe you need extra support help and probably need to step away from it how ever hard it might seem.... one thing is true, it definitely is a spiral and it does not have to happen very fast, you can spiral over a very long period and its very hard to get back on track..... the latter point being you think you are in control but its creeps up on you....

EdmontonAlberta

@EdmontonAlberta

@annakonuh "My husband does not like it, he says that I am an alcoholic and just asks me to drink alcohol at home … because I am under supervision, because many times he had to take a taxi and go pick me up from the bar." As I am sitting here enjoying my 7th beer tonight. You have an addiction - I do not. Think about this for a minute. Your husband is imperative to enjoy your journey through life. He is worried - you are ignoring him. If you continue your path, you will lose him. Then what??? I treat my wife as a Goddess - she gets whatever she wants, whenever she wants. She returns the favor. We are both happy; my enjoyment of beer costs me nothing. Therefore I am not an alcoholic. Your husband is giving signals that he will leave you if you do not stop drinking. Either listen to him or...

GraceyMay

@GraceyMay

This is my advice for what it’s worth, if the drinking is to forget or distract from problems, try starting something else that distracts you and requires you to be present in that moment. The things that work for me are learning to dance, or singing really loud (and badly) to music I love. These both also help me breath, so I don’t do panicky or anxious breathing which is an added bonus. Maybe you could take up dancing with your husband?

AnnaKonuh

@AnnaKonuh

@edmontonalberta I thought for a long time what to answer. Because I understand that you are right. I am really very afraid of losing my husband. He is my wall and support. I know that I can’t live without him. Therefore, I am trying to change. But not always I can cope with the desire to drink ... Thank you very much for your help. I know I definitely have something to think about.

AnnaKonuh

@AnnaKonuh

@graceymay Well, my husband does not like to dance, he danced with me once , it was our wedding 🙂. Now I have found for myself what I like to do in order to be distracted. I am trying to disseminate information about Shift.ms in Ukraine🇺🇦. And I am looking for different opportunities for this. I communicate with various charitable organizations so that they allow me to tell people about this forum at their events.😉

EdmontonAlberta

@EdmontonAlberta

@annakonuh "I am really very afraid of losing my husband. He is my wall and support. I know that I can’t live without him. Therefore, I am trying to change. But not always I can cope with the desire to drink …" I adored my first wife... She was diagnosed with Scleroderma & died 25 years ago; I was with her until she stopped breathing. Without getting into all the details, when she was sick - she used to chase me out of the house every Friday evening. She knew I would get higher than a kite with my friends; but she also knew that I could be trusted & she was #1 in my life. She knew my weakness; did not judge me for that. Her only concern was that I not get arrested on the drive home; never did... LOL Maybe you have the strength to set up something similar with your husband. Behave 6 days a week then reward yourself with a night out... ;-)

AnnaKonuh

@AnnaKonuh

@wheelxip Thank you very much for this suggestion, it is very important to me. Today was a very difficult day. I wanted to drunk alcohol again. But my husband made me a soothing tea ... Not whiskey,but I managed to calm down ..🙂