Last reply 3 months ago
Today is my birthday and I am hiding

Another birthday, 53 today and I am keeping to myself to avoid a lot of conversations about my MS from friends that don’t understand how MS works. Also I have had a problem with anxiety for a while now. I rarely leave my house and very seldom see people other than my wife and family. I just don’t enjoy crowds anymore which is odd considering my past. I don’t like birthday parties because I had rather have one on one time with someone to give my full attention to that person. Mingling is a feeling of cutting conversation short to move on to the next person so that you make time for everyone it seems. It has always felt like a tร sk to me and unnaturally forced. Does anyone else feel that way? I don’t want anyone to feel ignored and some people require more attention than others. I guess I just don’t want to let anyone down. So today I am going to focus on myself and my MS brothers and sisters. A familiar escape to people that understand the stress of a day like this that has become something different over the years for me. I hope everyone has a great day and feels some relief today.
Chris

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edmontonalberta
3 months ago

@chriscoxrox

Everyone is different. The key is to know yourself; likes & dislikes. Then follow your own path in life.

I have never enjoyed B-Day parties since I never did anything – just popped out of my Mom’s womb. My Mom deserved the party on my B-Day since she did all the work… ๐Ÿ˜‰

So yes; invite your friends over in smaller groups; or go out for dinner with them. As I tell my wife, she can go out with whomever she likes so long as I am invited. So long as she is comfortable with me staying home most of the time; and so long as she has fun – that is all that matters to me.

Enjoy the day!


cosine
3 months ago

Happy Birthday!!
I know exactly what you mean. Speaking with alot of people in a short space of time requires alot of focus and quick responding which is just too much effort sometimes.
And the topics at such functions are rarely thought provoking. Its just abit of a giggle which may not be worth the effort.

I’m normally knackered after heavy socialising it uses alot of brain power!


stumbler
3 months ago

Happy birthday, @chriscoxrox

It’s your prerogative how you celebrate your birthday. It’s also you managing a lifelong neurological condition. Stop considering others and worrying what they may think.

The best person to look after number one is…………………………..number one. Especially on your birthday.


stevenh67
3 months ago

Happy Birthday @chriscoxrox,

As it is your birthday you get to celebrate it however you like !!!

Enjoy


supermum1983
3 months ago

Happy birthday!!
Make it a good one


rmdaniels
3 months ago

@chriscoxrox
Happy Birthday! ๐ŸŽˆ๐ŸŽ‚๐ŸŽ‰


laurianne25
3 months ago

Happy Happy Birthday, @chriscoxrox! I hope it was awesome!!


petlamb
3 months ago

HAPPY BIRTHDAY CHRIS!! @chriscoxrox

I’ve read your post and have to admit I am exactly the same, right down to rarely leaving the house and never really seeing anyone except my husband. I am actually a hermit crab in disguise. ๐Ÿฆ€ Non-MSers just don’t get it because MS is just so damn complicated. Parties are a nightmare. I can’t do crowds either. With the cog fog and my hearing difficulties (which music at the event makes SO MUCH worse) – I just can’t do them any more. It’s kind of weird to stay away from music because I used to be a musician and it’s hell not to love music anymore – not because I hate it but just because it sounds like a MASS OF NOISE now. Rather than try to explain everything to everyone – which I can’t do because of the ‘cutting conversations short’ reason, I just prefer to live the quiet life. There is so much more I could add to this post, but I don’t want to bore everyone. I just want to say I totally understand here you’re coming from Chris. Hang in there. ๐Ÿค› If you would like to talk, PM me – it would be good to share thoughts/views with another like-minded person for a change. My 52nd is coming up and I’m gonna hide too. Sincerely hope you have a restful day today.

Suze


vixen
3 months ago

Happy birthday @chriscoxrox. Yep, I feel exactly the same as you. I donโ€™t feel sad about it though. The old me would have pushed myself to be more sociable and get out, but now I am better at recognising my own needs to have a comfortable life. I am 53 too! Hope youโ€™ve had a lovely day x

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