@Scott_Socco_Pickworth

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Scott_Socco_Pickworth

Sex life

Ever since I've been diagnosed with ms last year my sex drive is zero I rather turn over and go sleep,is anybody else like this or is it just me

Stumbler

@Stumbler

Hi @scott_socco_pickworth , it could be a physical problem and/or a mental problem. @George1234 has covered both of these bases above. Yes, your GP should be able to help with some "prescription" support. But, I found that MS could undermine our "alpha male" status. It just seemed to impact on my masculinity. So, a chat with your GP, or your MS nurse, is a good starting point.

cherish

@cherish

Heya Guys Isn't it much the same for females with ms? I could seriously settle for a bowl of nice soup with a crusty bun any day, any week, any month. I'm being 100% serious. And then.... For a day or two every few months all I want is sex! I actually blame how low my mood is wether that's ms related or not. And Mr @Stumbler I finally found a gp I can talk to but she's never heard of emotional lability etc.... Is that bcoz it's just not part of their 'general practice'? She just calls it 'anxiety', nothing more, nothing less. And female viagra? Does it get prescribed? Although I do believe it's the same ingredients as males but dunno if it's something women ask for (ms or not). I need brain viagra. @scott_socco_pickworth Would penis meds put you in the mood? It may 'stent' your manhood but does it mean you'd want sex? Tricky huh. Lisa ? ? xxx

Pigecan

@Pigecan

@cherish Good question, does a pill for the female exist? Its a bit different I suspect as you can instantly tell with a male if he's raring to go, maybe not so much with a woman.

cherish

@cherish

@pigecan my little furry friend. I'm fairly sure that I once seen the pink viagra on BBC news quite some time ago. Yeah, you are right about men and viagra and how this little soldier turns into a brave pilot! But, does it put them in the mood mentally? And would it put us young girls in the mood mentally? It's a hard one! Pun intended. Hope you are well xxx

Pigecan

@Pigecan

@cherish So insightful...just because the physical you is ready to snog, the mental you may be less than interested. Without sounding too crass, perhaps if people took it upon themselves to be "handy", it may determine whether its a physical or mental block. You know that old saying, if you don't "love on" yourself why would others.

cherish

@cherish

@pigecan Yeah, I agree with you 100%. I also agree that something as big as ms would most certainly be enough to mentally block out sex- as how important is sex when your world has been turned upside down? It's just getting over that hurdle?! Lisa xxx

Stumbler

@Stumbler

@Cherish , you may want to discuss the PseudoBulbar Effect (PBE) with your GP. It's another name for emotional lability. And, the female version of Viagra, which was on the news recently addresses the female sexual organ, the brain! Well, that's the way I read it.......

Scott_Socco_Pickworth

@Scott_Socco_Pickworth

Sex is ok don't get me wrong but I've not got much interested in it at the mo, plus I don't know weather it's the ms or meds but I do struggle to cum :-(

Stumbler

@Stumbler

@scott_socco_pickworth , unfortunately, MS is all about messages from nerve endings not getting to the brain properly, when they pass through an area of damage. This situation can cause us sensory problems. And in this particular case, can cause a lack of sensation, hence the problem. How to solve this? Well, it is difficult, but you do need to get your head in the right place, then you need to try and be a bit more flexible to adding a bit more spice and adventure into your sexual repertoire. As with most things in a relationship, communication is key.

reddivine

@reddivine

Couple of things being brushed over here! Sex is NOT a solitary practice. Jeez you all got partners or playmates - at least if you ARE interested in a sex drive at all. TALK to them.!!! Communication is VITAL. For many partners, they suddenly think your going to "break". But with talking to partners and explaining how you BOTH feel, you can find a way round it. There are all kinds of help out there, w.o. going the chemical route. and @cherish - sex doesn't stop cuz you have a disability. Or because your, well any age! OK so you may be more knackered, more often, but we all could do with a cuddle!

cherish

@cherish

@george1234 We were feeding the horse!! Get on ya! ? xxx

cherish

@cherish

Soz, that was rude! I've been watching to much 'Celebrity Juice' lol ? ? xxx

cherish

@cherish

@reddivine My partner never has to go without some fruity buisness. My hands and mouth work fine! We do 'very much' talk sex. Actually, so much so that it'd make your hair curl!! But if I don't want sex then I don't want sex. Don't mean I've stopped, I wasn't suggesting that.

cherish

@cherish

It's: Lisa'a Loveshack 236 Oral Avenue Titsburry Aberdeen Il pm you my Shacks number. ? ? ? ? ?

cherish

@cherish

@george1234 If you get lost there's our sister shop.. Dicks Dongle 128 Anal Way West Just off the Minge 6 before Whiplash Way! Look forward to it xxx

cherish

@cherish

@george1234 Bloody big kilt youl need my lovely! Sorry @scott_socco_pickworth We are hanging on to the subject matter but it's just mashed up a little now. I just wanted to say your name to myself again. It's super cool xxx You more of a night owl Mr Pickworth? How are you? Hopefully Well. xxx

Scott_Socco_Pickworth

@Scott_Socco_Pickworth

Yh i'm not to bad thanks,I'm knackered though,I dont really come on in the day much cause I hardly see anyone on,x

cherish

@cherish

Heya Yeah it can sometimes be real quiet. The last 24hrs is the busiest I've seen it in a wee while. It's always nice to just read the threads as there's always something in them that means something to us/educate us huh. Hope your weekend gonna be nice. Mines will just be the usual of 'nothing much', lol. Lisa xxx ?

Scott_Socco_Pickworth

@Scott_Socco_Pickworth

Lol mine to, At least we both have something in common xx

cherish

@cherish

Hahaha Ms and nothing much. Lol. Not forgetting all the tea I drink in a day. Bets your a coffee lad? I'm just chuffed the Xmas mince pies on the shelves now. Makes my tea look posh with a mince pie next to it. Small things and all that, lol. Lisa xxx

Scott_Socco_Pickworth

@Scott_Socco_Pickworth

Lol yh u right I am a coffee drinker,but like a beer every now and again,but can't drink how I used to lol xx

reddivine

@reddivine

@cherish, i hesitated to be TOO graphic in my original comment, but yeah blokes tend to think it all about "getting it up" and so immediaetly leap to Viagra. Newsflash!! there are many routes to pleasure (for guys and gals). Do your own research on this one, but communication, again, find out what turns him/her on. The brain is a sex organ too, don't forget....

cherish

@cherish

@reddivine I've been with my other half like forever so communication isn't an issue! As for Viagra, he uses it, not bcoz he has ms or any other health problems, but bcoz of his age, long work hours etc etc. At the end of the day I posted on this thread with MY OPINION and circumstances, not for it to be altered by someone else's ideas about MY sex life. I respect everyone's opinions on things. If we all thought/do the same thing then there wouldn't be wonderful sites like shift to share our opinions or ask someone's advice about things. Hope you are having a nice day. Bitter cold here.

willow

@willow

Well, I find it's better with a rabbit.

Scott_Socco_Pickworth

@Scott_Socco_Pickworth

Lol ?

militiousmili0001

@militiousmili0001

I get embarassed when excited I have leg spasms and cramping. Not the good kind. So am afraid to try to iniciate and enjoy myself.

jay64

@jay64

hi guys and gals. many times whilst haveing sex i suffer with retro ejaculation so now my partner is very reluctant to have sex as its put her of thinking its her thats the problem and im not intrested in her any more. i have tryed to exsplain but to no avail and our sex life is realy boreing and about exstinct. i know its wrong but i have tryed else were with others one of was the best ive ever had in my life and done thing ive never done before but still the problem acoured. it gets to be realy embarersing because it looks like you have not cum their for not enjoyed it, does any one else have this problem and how do you cope.

Stumbler

@Stumbler

I share your frustration, @jay64, and we're not alone. We just have to enjoy the journey, without ever arriving. It is a difficult one to explain to our partners, but it avoids someone having to sleep on the damp patch! As has been mentioned before communication and reassurances are key in a relationship.

Dann

@Dann

I'm the same Scott- but it has its blessings and curses with that problem. My ex wife found it a curses alright - the new one sees it as a blessing 😂 but with out the blue tablet it would be a sad story for my own perceived masculinity anyway

keld

@keld

thats soo me @cherish my other half of 21 years cant keep up though but it doesnt stop me talking about it lol lol xxxxxx