Negative work colleges.
So I was fully diagnosed back in January and I’ve been up and down constantly, recently I had a really bad chest infection which just seemed to be making all my MS symptoms far worse and I went really down hill, I’ve been off work for nearly a month, and I’m the type of person who loves work and does so much overtime. So going from 60+ hrs a week to not being able to do any has really taken a toll on me. Now I’ve just found out people at my work place have been bitching and moaning that I’m off work when I appear to be fine, it’s all so frustrating and it’s making me not even want to go back, they know what I’m diagnosed with yet they continued to say things, now I work in disability and LD so you would think they show some compassion but they really don’t. It’s just taking a toll on me mentally and I’m in the verge of just handing my notice in, just at a loss on what to do with myself...any advise would be appreciated
Hello @tyranasaurusrex, really sorry all of this is going on for you. This has been a rough year for you, what with being diagnosed and being ill. The good news is that we are nearly three-quarters through the year, so soon this will be the end of the horrible year. Lots of people on Shift talk about how hard it is to convey to others what it feels like to be us. This is what’s happening with you at work, which sucks, like you don’t have enough on your plate. Are you in a union, or do you have an HR department who could help you? The trouble is, you can’t change other people. What you can do, is focus on yourself and minimise any potential for stress which, as we know, has a terrible effect on us MSers. The main thing though, is that you mustn’t hand your notice in. Those types of decisions are best made from a place of choice (I’m probably older than you by heaps, and am choosing to start cutting back on work as my imperative to earn has lessened). Take a big, deep breath and put yourself first. Recover as best you can, give yourself lots of treats, this dark time will pass. Work slowly and steadily to get yourself back up to work speed, and accept all the help available. Stay strong, and know that there’s lots of support on here for you. X
@tyranasaurusbex I have many friends; real friends who will step forward whenever I ask... I point this out because co-workers are not your friends. They never have been; they never will be - they are working beside you to get a paycheck. Therefore always make your decisions with your best interests in mind! Do you have benefits such as disability, dental, etc... that you give up if you quit your job? Are you able to find another job easily? Talk with your boyfriend - work on your decision together - come up with a plan that works best for you... Good luck.