Hurtful comments
This week my grandad passed away in hospital. Leading up to that myself and the family visited him everyday. Due to my drop foot I walk with a slight limp/waddle at times.
My mother decided to slate me in front my family behind my back calling my walk pathetic, me pathetic and lazy. She then decided to message me the following;
‘If I see you dragging your feet looking tired and acting you’ve had it’
I replied acting what?
Her response ‘Predicted text‘
My cousins told her she shouldn’t be saying these things as it is my condition and just horrible.
Luckily I did not listen to her comments about not attending the hospital visits or I would have not been there with the family when he passed. My family doesn’t really like my mother as she doesn’t know how to talk to people (she has been told this before by others)
Do you have any words of advice towards this situation?
Sorry you are going through this. Parents can be really toxic—protect your peace because that is what is important. This type of comment is unacceptable. If you have already tried to educate her about your condition, then I say keep your distance and protect your peace.
As hard as it may be, try to have grace with her. Many people in our families and friend groups don’t know what MS is or understand how drastically different it can be with every person. A lot of people think we exaggerate our symptoms or or even faking them . At the bottom line is Sunday. She will truly understand is my hope for you guys and learn to be sympathetic towards the changes that you will go through. Blessings to you.