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@carmenrivera 

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carmenrivera

Relationships/marriage

Has anyone ended up getting/considered a breakup after getting diagnosed? Did anyone’s partner just stopped caring after seeing some type of improvement? In my case when I first got ny diagnosis I told my husband that if he wanted I would sign the divorce papers (I’m 28 he’s 40, Im the one who works 2 warehouse jobs to survive , and does all the house chores; he works 1 desk job) since im not gonna be able to take of him or the house how I use to, and he just reminded me of our “vows” and said he wasn’t going to leave me. Now the sh*t i; I’ve been BY MYSELF at the house cooking, cleaning, doing physical therapy, steroids, Infusions EVERYTHING BY MYSELF. And this guy just now had the audacity to tell me that he’s fed up of taking me to hospitals. Mind you i just got my diagnosis February 2025… its only been a couple months. I’ve been so lonely, I can’t work, I barely have friends, my family is in PR I have no family in PA so if I get a divorce im out on the streets… im still on disability from work so thats another frustration… idk if this is the end of my marriage at this point, it has been on thin ice for the longest time but not being loved and this treatment on the most vulnerable time of my life has been killing me… i need an advice.?
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@sekt722
@sekt722
 

I am sorry you are going through this. I have been lucky to have friends and family with me. I was diagnosed February 2008. Hang in there, things will turn around. First focus on you! Then work on your disability see if you can make it permanent as you appear to be totally disabled. Then next check with Social Security to see if you can obtain permanent SSDI. The paperwork process is tedious but you will get through it. If you get yourself substantiated you won’t worry about him. Make sure your medical is good to go as well.

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@BlackPhoenix
@BlackPhoenix
 

My ex made it six months after my diagnosis. I literally had to start from the ground up to rebuild my life. I was worth it and what I put up with was not acceptable. you’re obviously a strong person. I hope you figure it out and find peace