Dating, meeting new people
So I guess growing up I always thought falling in love would just happen naturally you know, like it does in the movies! Too many Disney films as a kid perhaps? At least I never really worried about what my destiny held. Fast forward two decades and I'm 32 years old having never had what I would call a 'proper girlfriend' / long term relationship, pretty pathetic I know. And not through not wanting a relationship or being a 'player', I'm actually a true romantic at heart and hold relatively old fashioned beliefs about courting etc. Anyway, In the last decade my friends seemed to have moved away, either got married or engaged and settled down with children and progressed with their chosen career. I don't have any emotional support as I don't have any local friends or even friends that I feel I can call so the isolation is huge! I have my mum, while I'd be lost without her and I'm very grateful for her, it's not quite the same you know. The thought of never meeting anyone terrifies me and can get me very down at times. I was wondering if people had any advice regarding the whole dating/meeting new friends whilst dealing with MS? I struggle with why would somebody want to be with someone who had MS? Sorry for the negative post :-(
Hey @Dom. Hope your ok. Emotional support is really important. I noticed on your profile your from Harrogate. I don't know if your already aware of this but Harrogate have an amazing ms support group. Ppl of all ages mainly ppl 20-40 meet up at HG1 bar every first Wednesday of the month. Yeh this was set up as a support group but really its just an opportunity to meet up with friends at a pub,but we all have MS.? . The group also arranges meals, nights out and fund raising events.If you search on facebook -harrogate YUMS you will find more details. I haven't been for a while as I've been busy with work and now live I Wakefield but I strongly recommend you go as everyone is lovely and they arrange all sorts of get togethers.really nice ppl. I know some ppl in the group have even formed relationships with each other. Dont be afraid to go,you dont need experience ms alone Dom ?
One of the first things you need for a long term relationship is to find someone that in intelligent , good sense of humor and personality. When I first started dating I figured this out fairly quickly, my date could be awfully cute but if he couldn't understand three syllable words and carry on a decent conversation there was no point in continuing. My husband of 43 years is just a average guy, he's barely taller than me and average looking. But he has a genius IQ level great sense of humor and people love him. Maybe you could start a friendship with a woman and see if it goes further. You look a lot like my son, he met his wife at a group meetings at a bar. They had talked to each other several times before they went out, my son said when they first met they didn't like each other. They married after a year of dating, she asked him. She was a little older and was a established attorney my son was a loose wheel. Try going to several meetings you never can tell what might happen. Potter