Last reply 1 month ago
Worried about finding a partner/relationship

This has probably been a topic many times in the past I am just really looking for a response that helps me find someone I can spend time with as I hate to admit it I’m 28 and I’m a virgin and I haven’t really had any experience but i can talk to women the only problem is this Ms and worried it will actually stop me from finding someone.
I know this sounds like I’m being dramatic but I can’t help feeling what I feel I’m starting to think it’ll be better if I just stayed by myself but as I said dramatic sorry. if you look at this and wonder what the hell I’m talking about I can’t really feel any different.

Any advice or help on the subject would be much appreciated but I’m not expecting a miracle thank you and look forward to your responses.

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pj887
1 month ago

Ner=partner haha hands are useless

 

Title updated for you – Admin (Stumbler)


stumbler
1 month ago

@pj887 , there’s a couple of short videos, Gallop and Belong, on this webpage, that I’d like you to watch. Scroll down and you’ll find them :- .

https://shift.ms/stories

Some of the other stories may also be useful.


pj887
1 month ago

Cheers I’ll look in to them πŸ˜€


criswell
1 month ago

Hey pj,you can find someone but you have to look. I was dxed with MS when I was 29 I had a girlfriend at the time but she broke up with me a couple of weeks after my dx(she is now my friend on Facebook,lol).

It wasn’t until I was 33 that that I met the next woman I fell in love with. She lived in Japan and I met her through a penpal ad she had placed in the heavy metal magazine “Kerraang” (in the 80s I worked at a record store where we sold this mag) I married this woman a couple of years later and we moved to Japan were we lived for 4 years and our son was born(he is 27 now). Later we moved to Minneapolis but we got divorced about 6 years after we arrived here(she lives in Japan now and we are Facebook Friends).

4 years after our divorce I met a woman through Yahoo Personals who lived together for 11 year before getting married but that was a mistake since we ended up getting a divorce 1 year later(I still talk to her on Facebook sometimes but we are not FB friends(used to be,lol).

After our divorce I decided I wanted to find someone new so I started looking at dating websites and joined several including OKCupid,Plenty Of Fish and could of others. Over the next 4 years I sent out 170 messages to woman I was interested in meeting and I got back 84 answers. These resulted in 29 first dates which turned into 10 women whom I dated multiple times.

Now I am only dating 1 of them because she is my girlfriend.We met over 5 months ago and it was “love at first sight”. We really are well matched in so many ways that I now feel that my life couldn’t have turned out any better than it has. I guess in a way I have MS to thank for this,lol.


peterfrancis
1 month ago

Hi @pj87

So what if you’re a virgin at 28, there’s no rule or law that says everyone must complete the 3 – 5 minutes of Bedroom Gymnastics by a certain age.

Don’t put too much pressure on your self, make the effort to take some steps to meet people and see what happens naturally.

Or, if popping your cherry is of great urgency then perhaps look into hiring someone.

Don’t let your MS stop you from engaging with anyone, if someone has issues with your MS then they are not worth your time..


vixen
1 month ago

Hello @pj887, love your frankness! With your honesty, you will find someone who can see the real value in that. There have been a few posts on here recently on the subject of relationships. You are so young to be burdened with this thing we all have. Your MS won’t be a barrier to someone with the right qualities. Trust in the universe, stay healthy and well, and make the most of opportunities that come your way x @kriswell, Kerrraaaannnngggggggg……Big blast from my rock chick past πŸ™‚


pj887
1 month ago

@Biden, @peterfrancis and @Cromwell thank you so much for your replys put a smile on my face and cheered me up 😁


pj887
1 month ago

@viper my phones rubbish im sorry


peterfrancis
1 month ago

@pj887

You’re welcome, I like to combine helpful advice with a smattering of playful yet twisted musings.


pj887
1 month ago

Thanks to everyone again and @stumbler for changing my mistake on the post


grandma
1 month ago

@pj887 I’m a grannie who lives just down the road in Stoke. I don’t look my age but do use a mobility scooter or electric wheelchair to get around. Quite used to train travel and quite happy to travel for a coffee and a natter if it wouldn’t do your street cred any harm to be seen with an ‘older woman’. I’ve had the beast for 26 years so there isn’t much I don’t know about it and I’m usually good for a laugh. Some things are important some aren’t, don’t stress, things will fall into place for you eventually. Believe me, things will all come out in the wash. Let me know if you want some understanding company one day😍


pj887
1 month ago

Haha I couldn’t give one about street cred I dispised that word since hi school so to answer your question I think I would be a lovely idea 😁


seanachai
1 month ago

pj, criswell hit the nail on the head, go looking everywhere, meeting the right person is an absolute lottery…. cast the net far and wide, just meet people will do you good….

Being the virgin, if it bothers you that much get an escort… do what you need to do… alternatively don’t over think it, most people are shite in bed anyhow (cue all the I am great responses)… πŸ™‚ learn as you….


pj887
1 month ago

@seanachai cheers for the response like everyone else, sound advice and I appreciate it thank you


lightning87
1 month ago

My favourite saying is β€˜for every mop there is a bucket’ – not suggesting you are either a mop or a bucket but you will find someone regardless of your MS diagnosis.
There is someone for everyone and you just have to get yourself out there and start chatting to people.
Join a dating website, best way to get chatting and give yourself a confidence boost.
All the best x


pj887
1 month ago

Cheers @lightning87 thank you and I’ll certainly try 😁

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