Last reply 11 months ago
What now

Hi I’m new here I joined to see if anyone has had the same problem I got secondary progressive and was diagnosed 10 years ago I’m now in a wheelchair but I can still do quite a lot for myself but recently my wife of 20 years decides she don’t love me anymore so now I’m a single dad and wondering how to start again any ideas would be appreciated

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11 months ago

Hi @briant and welcome.

I’m sorry that your marriage has come to this. MS shows no respect for any but the strongest of relationships. It is better to allow our loved one to go, rather than live in a relationship which descends into abject resentment.

As with all things MS, we have to pick ourselves, brush ourselves down and start over again. I might write a song about that! 😉

So, primarily concentrate on being a good Father and show your kids what a strong character you are. Being a Father is something that MS cannot take away from you.

Don’t isolate yourself. Get out and socialise where you can. Adopt new interests and join local groups.

We’re far from finished. 😉

11 months ago

Hi Briant, I’m in nearly the same boat except my other half left after 43 years I am now a grandma (you would never guess by the name!) and I was diagnosed 24 years ago. Mr government has a lot to answer for, my other half got carers allowance for 23 years, but it all came to an end when he was 65! cos apparently you don’t need carers allowance when you are a pensioner! I can’t get Attendance Allowance cos I’m not old enough. Have had all my DLA taken away when changed to PIP won the basics back on appeal, but have to go to Tribunal to get back Mobility car and carer.So don’t give up, you may be a single dad and in a wheelchair but there is lots of help out there and we’re all here as well, have a moan, have a rant, have a cry, we don’t care, you are not doing anything we haven’t done already. We’re here to listen, offer suggestions, or even just say hello and welcome and we’re always here😍 Jill

11 months ago

Thanks stumbler and nana for your encouraging words

11 months ago

Similar story to mine been diagnosed for many years. Married to my husband for 7yrs but a week after I got my new wheelchair he said he couldn’t handle my worsening MS (so much for in sickness and in health marriage vow) anyway I’m now a single mum and nearly 2yrs later it has got easier with time adjusting to my new life. Hang in there, and here’s a shout out to all the single parents with MS!!

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