Last reply 6 months ago
Who do you tell?

I started back a work after taking a few days off for my treatment. My employer knows about my MS and is very supportive however others don’t know anything. I had a lot of questions over the past couple of days such as ‘where have you been’ which I instinctively lied about. Suppose I was just wondering who does it help to tell? I don’t want people to look or treat me differently but I’ve been told what I’m doing by not talking about it is unhealthy. 🙁

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6 months ago

Like you I have a very good employer who knows the full details but I prefer not to tell me colleagues. I tend to stick as close to the truth about my symptoms without explaining the underlying cause of the symptoms (ie MS). I am lucky in that I can work from home on fatigue days. Migraine is a good reason to give people, I do get migraines but not the amount my colleagues think I have!

6 months ago

People forget very quickly, shrug your shoulders and say you were just dealing with a virus, not ecessarily a lie, they will stop asking within a few days and you can get back to square one👂🙏🏻😜

6 months ago

@katherineee , if you’re told “what I’m doing by not talking about it is unhealthy”, then it’s not that edifying trying to talk about it to someone who doesn’t/won’t understand.

And, you are talking about it – here! 😉

It’s good that your employer is supportive. That’s reassuring.

6 months ago

@cakeangie @grandma @stumbler thanks for your advice and you are right, it does help to talk about things on here 😊

6 months ago

I told my bosses and a handful of people at work that I’m close to. Each time though, I would make it blatantly clear that “I don’t want other people to know this” or “please don’t tell anyone else”. I trust them, but sometimes you just need to remove any potential vagueness or misinterpretation from the situation!!
I’m planning to make it public knowledge later this year though. It’s been a few years since diagnosis, so I feel comfortable for people to know, because I’ve well and truly proven that it doesn’t affect how I perform at work!!

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