Last reply 1 week ago
Stress and worry!

Hi guys,

I’m just wondering how people deal with stress.

I’m finding the slightest thing can get me stressed and I’ve got an extreme lack of patience with anything, including people ๐Ÿ˜ฌ to the point I’m feeling like I’m turning into an evil woman ๐Ÿ™ˆ๐Ÿ˜‚
Then I’m also concerned constantly, worrying alot about the future etc…this is only recently, not sure if this is because I’m going to be turning 30! ๐Ÿ˜‚
I’ve never been an overstressed person before or a worryer, is all this normal? ๐Ÿ˜ฌ

Thanks in advance ๐Ÿ™‚

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doubleo7hud
1 week ago

You just need a good bullsh1t filter lass, itโ€™s not summat you can buy on amazon tho you gotta train yourself to think does it matter. The next step is the โ€œworryโ€™sโ€ that you can file in the โ€œdoes it feck matter pile just brush em off and crack on.

Turning 30 is overrated hairy ears, nostrils and multiple SclerosARSE. I feel like Iโ€™m a grumpy old man already at 34 ๐Ÿ˜‚.


stumbler
1 week ago

@laurab90, in his own sweet way, @doubleo7hud has provided good advice.

It’s time to re-evaluate your life and decide what is actually important to you.

And, age is just a number, a statistic. It’s not how many years you’ve lived, it’s how you’ve lived those years that matters.

So, sit down, put your feet up and have some me-time.


laurab90
1 week ago

Thankyou @doubleo7hud and @stumbler

I think I seriously need to establish a bullsh1t filter, at the moment the littlest things get to me ๐Ÿ™ˆ turning me in to a touchy little madam ๐Ÿ™ˆ

It’s true, i need to do some evaluating rather than overthinking
Chill time and some hibernation on the cards for me I think ๐Ÿ‘Œ


doubleo7hud
1 week ago

What @stumbler is trying to say in English is…

Donโ€™t waste your time worrying about the stupid sh1te, when life throws thee a lemon, bite the little feckers head off, add some gin and dance on its headless little yellow remnants (would say body, but already got away with head Even tho lemons donโ€™t have any of those things not that anyone even noticed till I pointed it out (unless you did realise then u can have 1,000 points ,well done)).


itsmewithms
1 week ago

Today was finally the day of my Neuro Psych appointment at Mayo after 5 months of waiting…I’m told I am fortunate it came up that fast and if I wanted to wait for an appointment closer to me (this was a 2 hour drive) the wait was more like a year. Crazy!

Anyways today there were a lot of assessments on memory, thought patterns, factors such such as irritability, etc. When we discussed any cognitive changes I’ve had in that area I told him that I just think, at this point of my life, I’ve just become a lot less tolerant. That is I am less willing to put up with shxt from people. ;-0 My tagline to my daughter for many years has been “deal with it”…the world isn’t here to serve you and neither am I…is that a matter of me having MS? or getting to a point in life I am realizing that I can’t please everyone so have to start choosing myself. People start to notice a change in me when in the past I have always been a “pleaser” and have put myself last historically.

It’s not that I am less tolerant of things such as diversity of thought or of others but less accepting of people not treating each other with dignity and respect and not willing to always put others ahead of myself. So- sometimes I’m just going to give myself more time to chill and enjoy. Give yourself permission to do that sometimes when you need to…I keep reminding myself that too much stress and not enough sleep are #1 and #2 on the list of causes of MS progression…and stressing about progression is likely #3…have to let go sometimes…


sarah21
1 week ago

@laurab90 Yoga works for me ๐Ÿ˜ not everyoneโ€™s thing I know but otherwise find an exercise or activity you love…plenty of evidence that exercise helps reduce stress, improves mood and keeps you active ๐Ÿ˜‰


lisa_morghan
1 week ago

How about getting a Massage there relaxing take some yoga class go to gym burn that “shit” sweat Hot herbal relax tea …… melatonin is a natural herb for relaxing i certainly hope this helps talk again … Lisa


n3tm4n
1 week ago

I can’t speak for others, but from my perspective finding a quiet corner (even a toilet cubical works) and purposefully focusing on my breathing helps me remain calm and almost resets my stress levels.

I wouldn’t go as far as to say I’m doing any kind of meditation (not even really sure what that is). I just simply breath slower and deeper for 15-30 or even 60 seconds. Sitting somewhere with eyes closed is best, but I also do it standing up holding a phone to my ear as if I’m on a call so others don’t bother me.

I am sure there are probably as many different answers as people on here, just need to find one that works for you. Remember though, it isn’t selfish to have some me time to battle stress.


laurab90
1 week ago

@itsmewithms
That’s me, my tolerance levels are pretty low, and I’m finding that I love my own company, whereas before I said yes to attending everything…fear of missing out type of thing.
And I struggle listening to people’s very minor problems too. No patience at all

@sarah21
That’s definitely something I could try. Hopefully change my mood from grumpy cow to cheery Laura ๐Ÿ™ˆ

@lisa_morghan
@n3tm4n
Thankyou both for your advice ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š


guinness
1 week ago

@laurab90 you know that voice in your head that stops you from saying or writing the things you shouldn’t , Well I don’t seem to have one of those. You have Multiple Sclerosis, just like thousands of other people, who also stress and worry it’s a normal thing to do. How a person deals with it is up to the THEM. I should be suicidal, the amount of pressure my body and mind is going through, but i’m NOT and do you know WHY. Because there is Sweet F— ALL I can do about it, what will be will be. I just try to keep my mind busy, don’t give it chance to play games with me, jobs around the house if I do them all well and good and if I don’t, I DONT. If I fall over I get up. @doubleo7hud I’ve got more hair coming down my nose and out of my ears than I’ve got on my head. @ stumbler Do people know what stress is or are the just down in the Dumps.


itsmewithms
1 week ago

It helps me to just mentally acknowledge that I am in an irritable and sometimes irrational state and remove myself from the situation or push myself into a better mood. Somehow just acknowledging that it MS impacting me again and it is not the “real me” helps me.

I kind of sit back and “recenter” on what is important. Being irritable with a sales person or telemarketer that is just being pushy is, I think, standard practice ;-0 but when it is with someone you have or need a relationship with I need to take a deep breathe (mentally), put on a smile and be the “real me”. Some days that is really hard.


laurab90
1 week ago

@itsmewithms

Thankyou ๐Ÿ˜Š


doubleo7hud
1 week ago

Just had a good idea ๐Ÿ’ก why not purposely give aht your mobile number to a few telemarketing companyโ€™s that way you can take it out on them making you feel better and refreshed ๐Ÿ˜‚ I think I might be onto something here this could be a new form of therapy. We can call it something I just thought of and canโ€™t remember as I got distracted by the telly ๐Ÿ˜‚…..


doubleo7hud
1 week ago

โ€œTelemarketing tension reliefโ€ That might sound a bit dodgy tho ๐Ÿ˜‚ thinking on


nutshell88
1 week ago

overthinking about it is addictive

– lack of patience with anything, specialy people lol – used to be worse for me but no one is perfect

im 31 now diagnosed age 17 tried and enjoyed every thing in my life lol wasnt perfect still not many arent

live your life how you like stressed over rest br lazy but also challenge it and enjoy doing the challenge when you can everyday is different even with healthy people sometimes they feel tired other days active and so do we

i manipulate my ms
everyday is s new day

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