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ruggermad
7 months ago

@lauren_susman Social anxiety- been there, lived with it, come through the other side. Really difficult to come to terms with but with time, things will get better.


shannon_devlaminck
7 months ago

@lauren_susman I know exactly what you mean. Going through the exact same thing. Not that I had many friends to start with mind you. But the ones I do have I don’t want to bother them or anything so just stay home and hang out with my kids and wife.


arbee
7 months ago

Social anxiety a big problem for me too, I used to socialise a lot and now it makes me physically sick if I have a big social occasion coming up, I try to hide away at home as much as I can. I use excuses to get out of things and then I start to overthink what everyone must think of me because I’ve let them down and I get caught in a downward spiral in my mind and it’s really difficult to get out of.

Last Saturday night was an exception, it was my oldest friends 40th birthday party and despite my mind doing it’s best to convince me into not going I pushed through and made the party and it was the best thing I’ve done in ages! I had a brilliant time and, once I got over the hangover, I’ve felt really good ever since! It’s a vicious circle because I believe socialising really helps with depression (and therefore anxiety) but the anxiety stops you from socialising which just makes you worse!


chezy17
7 months ago

I guess I’m the opposite, I love to be around my friends and out and about. I do however like some time to myself to gather my thoughts and rest when I don’t have my munchkins but I’m likely to go nuts πŸ€ͺ if I was to be in the house 24/7. I like to talk to peeps and be around my family and friends which I think is actually doing me good.
Seriously, cabin fever is a thing πŸ˜‚. Surround yourself with positive people, you can really help 😊!


nutshell88
7 months ago

mine too
dignity first
i found others much closest friends


chezy17
7 months ago

See that’s the thing, I’m not ashamed of my MS, it’s just something I have, it doesn’t define who I am. I was me before, and I’m me now which is probably why I do handle it the way I do. I’m not going to hide away or stop being around my friends or family because that’s when it becomes about the MS. I have a blog if you want to have a look, probably a different outlook to how most deal with MS but it’s there if you want to have a look 😊. Keep smiling and talking about it, even with strangers, it helps believe me 😊.


ruggermad
7 months ago

The thing with social anxiety is that you don’t want to go out or you don’t want to mix with friends and speak with others.
You can go through an episode where you feel worthless, scared, paranoid, fearful of the future and generally anti-social. Friends and family would constantly tell me to “snap out of it” or “pull myself together” but it’s a very difficult thing to do when you are suffering.
Part of the process of recovery in my case (which I managed to do alone) was coming to terms with being diagnosed with a life changing disease/ illness.
It wasn’t all plain sailing for me though as things got so bad that I suffered from BDD (body dysmorphic disorder) and believe me that was a journey in which I never want to go on again.
The things which helped lead to my recovery was online CBT sessions, mindfulness, music, reading how others coped with life changing situations (e.g. Viktor Frankl, Auschwitz survivor) and talking to others with MS on social media platforms like Shift MS.
The important thing to remember is that you probably want to talk to someone about your situation but you may not have that avenue available to yourself, you may have friends who say “call me anytime” but when it comes to talking about your fears and experiences they are not in the same boat and don’t have the understanding to chat about health matters.
My life over a period of 18 months changed dramatically and I now see the world in finer detail and appreciate it’s colourfulness. I also appreciate the wonders that life brings to us all in all walks of life.
I wish that at the time I was more aware of local MS meetup groups where I could actually speak to other MSers face to face. I now know of a local meetup which I do attend and it is therapy within itself, I highly recommend attending one if theres one nearby.

Love to you all and if anybody is going through simillar $hit as above and you want to talk, hit me up.

Peace

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