@Brian_Medeiros 

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Brian_Medeiros

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My grandmother, mother, sister and I all have MS. One thing I’ve noticed in since my first attack at 25, losing my vision on the right side (gained 40% back) and having a very hard time walking (regained it back) I feel so unattractive. No one else I know that has it does but I feel like damaged goods. Who’s gonna want someone who could relapse at any time and need help or potentially become handicap. I feel ugly because of the way I walk, because sometimes I can’t see out of my eye still, weather affects my eye very often. I get told I’m gorgeous, beautiful, handsome, sexy but I don’t see it nor feel it anymore. Does anyone else ever feel this way? If so how do you deal with it?
@Stumbler

Hi @brian_medeiros and welcome. This is an imperfect world, inhabited by imperfect people. Yes, everyone is imperfect in one way or another. You are so much more than your MS, as befits the expression, "I have MS, but MS does not have me"! Physically, we can all have imperfections, but we can still have beautiful minds and hearts.

@Vixen

Hello @brian_medeiros, so I’m older than you, but getting a diagnosis and then trying to get on with life, I felt I had been stripped right back to a lesser form of myself. No energy to invest in appearance, all my focus going into day by day, rather than goal oriented. However, what has emerged from the last two years is an inner strength I never knew I had. Human qualities and a good heart will always outlive looks. If you look good or gorgeous, that’s a great bonus. But an authentic partner will want you for you, and who you are. Have faith in yourself and your qualities, these are the things that will sustain relationships not appearances. On with your quest! :-)