Last reply 1 month ago
Help needed

Good evening to everyone just wondering if anyone can help me unfortunately due to my anxiety and depression and other pressures I’m under with my illness ive decided to get a social housing bungalow and separate from my wife im really struggling with everyday and additional pressures along with trying to bring up our grandchildren whonlive with us ive not taken this decision lightly but feel it’s the right thing to do and both me and my wife are hoping I will be considered for ine about 10 doors down from my current home. However money is non existent and I’m frightened of just ending up with the bungalow no furniture appliances anything is there anyone who can help me out there organisation’s etc im absolutely frightened to death my anxiety is through the roof and don’t want to burden anybody thanks

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1 month ago

@scottevans Many local councils have an adult social services department. Give them a call.

1 month ago

Many thanks ill ask

1 month ago

When I’m not well I feel like I need to live alone as not to burden anyone the increased pressure to be productive in a relationship when you can’t makes me more stressed and anxious keeping me in a circle of being unwell.
So I get you .
May I ask what your wife wants because if you say you only moving a few houses down sounds like your fight and flight system is getting triggered and all you can see is how to stop the anxiety and feeling like your letting her down.
When I’m like you I just wish everyone apart from my kids would just forget me so I can recover in peace without having the extra burden of being a wife/ friend etc…
But what scares me is actually the reality is we have lost our normal lives and can’t except it so we hate ourselves so much that being in the same house forces you to have someone witness your failed normal life.
I have no answer to these feelings because I experience them repeatedly all I think is you arnt going far and chances that all the stress of moving to realise you still hate being ill and you still will see them when they come in to see you regardless so what’s the point unless your wife is sick of you then it’s her decision if she’s pissed off with you really.

1 month ago

@scottevans , it’s one step at a time. Don’t try to solve problems that haven’t yet occurred……….

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