don't know what to do
I feel like a spare part in the family. Getting so fed up of hearing " thing is if we go on a holiday with 16 yr old son I'll feel torn between you both. 16yr old will want to do lots of active things but obviously you can't so I end up sitting with you and I really want to be doing stuff, if we go somewhere together I could go off walking when you get tired and you could sit and have a cup of tea/watch the world go by/read your Kindle"
Am I being unrealistic? ok I've got drop foot and have FES. I get up at 6.30am to get son sorted for school, drive him to bus stop (live in rural area) do all the cooking, cleaning, washing, shopping, finances etc. My only sin is I have M.S . can't walk long distances and can stumble. Bowels/bladder need to be organised like a military operation along with my menopause.
should I accept my situation? I stayed at home for a week when husband and 2 sons (16 & 22) went on a walking holiday to Manhattan and when they went to San Francisco for 12 days. Don't get me wrong I thoroughly enjoyed the peace and I did loads of gardening (I'm very independent and refuse to be told "no you can't do that") I was seriously worried about how much I enjoyed being on my own! Just don't know what to think about things. 16yr old told me that he would enjoy a chilled time with me and would happily just "hang out" and goo swimming with me, no heavy 15hr day walking/sightseeing regimes!
I realise that sight seeing/making the most of your holiday is important but what happens when one of the family is limited in what they can do?
Can't help thinking that I know what kind of answers I am going to receive
because I'm aware of what I would say to someone else. Just can't seem to tell myself.
God! That was a weight of my chest! Sorry! :))
Hi hun sorry to hear you are feeling like this , you do what makes you happy it's your holiday aswell if your son is happy chilling out on holiday I would go with that, I wouldn't like to be going walking and sightseeing for hours on holiday either , relaxing by the pool and going for a swim to me sounds like the perfect holiday :). I would just let your family know how you are feeling, you going anywhere nice on holiday? X
Hi @min. Nothing to apologise for. I think it sounds as though you do know what to do, but you are worried about upsetting others or putting anyone out. It’s great that you enjoyed some peace and gardening while they were away being active in a different way, but ‘your situation’ is also part of your families situation. My husband went through a spell of announcing that we had to find new things we could do together, but I don’t think there’s anything wrong with some of the old things we always enjoyed! Our recent holidays have included all inclusive resorts with the kids, where everyone could go off and do different activities but have a base camp by the pool, and cottages/road trips with occasional days where we did our own thing. The highlights were still the times that we spent together, regardless of what we were doing! I don’t think you are being unrealistic, nor have you committed any sin - You just sound like a busy Mum, who deserves a family holiday!! Can you talk to them all and come up with a shared plan, that suits EVERYONE? Good luck, Dx