@Sherry_Wine 

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Sherry_Wine

Circular Doors

I have had MS since 2012. In June they figured out it was no longer rrms but spms. Fine I can get through this but I am finding that the world seems to be colder. People who where around started to fall off when I got diagnosed in 2012 but now it's like I am an inconvenience because I can no longer go to them for coffee or meet them somewhere. I tried other sites and got messages shaming me for going to A&W for their MS day or asked about my religion, relationship status, and than asked to go to another site to have personal chats within an hour (super weird feeling, FYI). I just end up feeling like we are isolated compared to people with other disorders and no one understands so they leave. Maybe a bad day. 🙁
@ItsMewithMS

This summer I was reclassed from RRMS to SPMS. I have also had an issue with my right hip that required a hip replacement two years ago. Although the hip joint mechanics are all fine I have residual gait, strength and balance issues with it. I have explained my issues to others (like my boss) as related to my hip. So basically I have had a cover for my MS. Only my family and one friend knows that I have MS. The decision to disclose is a big one. I haven't as I don't want a pity party and don't want to be shunned as you note above. It is also just a fact that if we stop participating in the things we did with friends that the world keeps spinning and we just are just an observer. I don't expect them to take extra effort to drag me along. I was hit by a layoff at my company in early June. It wasn't really a surprise as my boss really wanted me gone. She was the new boss since the guy that pulled me into the area retired. What he wanted and needed and his vision for the department was different than hers and she did not want an accountant type person. I think she had been tortured by auditors in the past ;-0 who knows. I used to be an extreme extrovert and wanted to do everything, everywhere but have found myself becoming more introverted..like my husband and daughter. It is actually maybe a good thing for household harmony ;-) I start to realize that I have friends and I have people I did things with. The people that I just did things with will fall away when I don't do things with them anymore. I hold onto those that were true friends. Hopefully that make sense-

@jen1973g

I’m feeling the same it’s not my friends it’s me I’m like a shadow of my former self I feel no one gets me I feel angry