Bowels - Urgency and Accidents

I find that I am always quickly running to the toilet as I don't seem to get the message from my bowels until it's almost too late. I had been managing this reasonably well and had been used to making it to the toilet before having an accident. I have been caught short only once or twice when out and about over the 12 years since diagnosis, however, recently these accidents have been happening more often, which is incredibly embarrassing and so humiliating. It's gotten to the point that now I am getting extremely down about it all and thoughts of ending it all keep entering my mind. Has anyone got any advice?
@Vixen

Hello @charlotteaknightgmail-com. To start with the basics. Has anything changed about your diet recently? Upping or lowering carbs can make a difference, for example. You can find sphincter exercises online which might help. I hope others will respond with their experiences and advice x

@ItsMewithMS

Many will likely say "been there" on this one and it can be hard. It was especially hard in a professional setting where my desk was a distance from the restrooms and the meeting rooms were awful. I have noticed a big improvement when I started taking gabapentin and then gralise for "nerve pain". I had never even really associated this issue with MS but it really is as our nerves aren't communicating correctly or at all all. I think Gralise just helps my nerves work better and not get confused. My theory. I also started Ocrevus like a month ago so hope this helps some in the future or prevents it from getting worse. Some members in this group have noted they have established a schedule and been more regimented in their personal habits. That will work for some, I suppose. I didn't hear these solutions mentioned and the discussion was more on the physical solutions but they should be the first attempt I suppose and there is a good discussion from the MS society https://www.nationalmssociety.org/Symptoms-Diagnosis/MS-Symptoms/Bowel-Problems