Am I experiencing brain fog?
Hi there everyone. Been diagnosed for 2 years now with RR. I was reaching out in regards to something that has been brought to my attention lately. I have a significant other, we've been together for about 7 years now. The other day we got into an argument because he mentions I don't ask him questions, I don't inquire about him or what he's been studying, even though he does it on a daily basis, he also says I don't want to talk about a lot of things often. I don't know what to think. Sometimes, while reading a book he suggested, I find I need to write down notes to remember parts of the book so that I can later bring them up to him and put forth an effort to talk to him about it. I don't know what to think or if this all makes any sense. I'm pretty happy in my relationship, I don't feel too depressed, I don't remember being like this before my diagnosis. Is this brain fog? Maybe just depressed? Not sure, never thought it'd be a problem, didn't think it WAS a problem. Any thoughts?
@velvet2623 , when we are dealing with a condition like MS, we can become insular, concentrating on dealing with our problems and managing ourselves day-to-day. It's not so much being selfish, but trying to minimise our MS, rather than allow it to become a major player in our relationship. However, we can become embroiled so much in ourselves that we can overlook our partner and what's going on in their life. It's another one of the balancing acts that MS forces upon us. We have to balance our self-preservation instincts with a need to maintain a normal life.
@velvet2623 Patricia - You were young when you got into your relationship & are still young. This may be part of the relationship challenge. Yet, let us pretend it is not... Why do you need to ask him questions? It his responsibility to share his day with you when he would like to talk. It is his responsibility to share the good things & bad that he would like to talk about with you. It is your responsibility to listen (actually listen) & respond... Maybe it is just me; but if my wife asked questions when I had not yet formulated my thoughts - it might get awkward & what I responded may not be exactly what I wanted to say... Similarly, why is he asking you to read certain books to talk about? My wife & I have varied interests; lots of things she learns is of no interest to me - and vice versa. There are many things we have in common - we talk about them. But her enjoyment of the Arts - have fun dear... My interest in sports or fishing - have a great day & I love you... Neither of us feels left out while the other pursues their passions. Make sense?