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Shtanto

Almost 35, never moved out

I'll be 10 years diagnosed in December, and I'm wondering how on earth I'm going to get my own place to live. My skills are wide and varied, as are my anxieties around moving out on my own. Clearly however, if I am to realise my full potential, I will have to find a source of income then a place of accomodation. My MS tends to flare up when I'm anxious or stressed, so I'm wondering how I bootstrap the process. Full time job work is scary. Being alone for too long is also scary. Where I am right now is exceedingly comfortable. Consider a few steps in my shoes. I have no bills to pay, no serious responsibilities, no job, no social life, no love life, a wide array of hobbies, a failure to launch situation affecting my entire family and the cake tin is never empty. My relationship with my family is excellent. It would be difficult to do MS without their support. I am the only one in the household who knows all the wifi passwords. What would you do? Stay or move out?
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@Mlgilber1
@Mlgilber1
 

I’m 34 and in the exact situation....

@laurenrose
@laurenrose
 

it sounds like there might be more reasons to stay home and try to find way to make it 'feel' like you're being a bit more independent. i don't know about you, but i tend to get a bit existential when it comes to my independence and all at once i want to be back in full time work, living on my own and managing my ms a lot better plus a decent social life AND love life and all the best versions of all the best things quite possibly ever. then reality hits and i'm in pain, my brains all foggy and i can't actually walk more than a few steps without walking into something and exploring my profanity vocabulary 😂 so instead, i tend to my plants or organise some boring paper work i've probably been avoiding since the beginning of time and maybe, if i feel like it, message someone to remind them of my existence and apologise for being an avoidant dweeb when i'm having a down moment/day/life. i try to be as lighthearted and humorous with myself as i can and ultimately just give myself a break because life itself is already just so much. the things you want will happen, just when they're supposed to. where are you based? i'm sure you'd be able to find a bunch of workshops to get you out and about socialising again (and if not, pinterest is perfect for building/manifesting your dream house 😅) apologies for the essay, it's early and sleep has evaded me