@boodle06

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boodle06

Stress!!!!!!

In limbo land still. I've got such a stressful week ahead of me, I'm dreading it. Monday I finally get to see neurologist after waiting 10 weeks (not looking forward to it) & tuesday I'm back to work for the first time in 10 months. Frightened by it all, how to cope??

Stumbler

@Stumbler

Prepare yourself for the Neuro. Write down your objectives for this meeting, what do you want to get out of it? You'll still be apprehensive, but you'll be prepared. You're also apprehensive about returning to work, that's understandable. But, I'm sure there'll be colleagues there that have worried about you and will be pleased to see you back. Don't anticipate achieving too much too quickly. Work with the Occupational health/HR people to ensure that you're not pushed too far. It'll be like riding a bike - you did learn how to ride a bike, didn't you? :)

boodle06

@boodle06

Yeah. I did learn to ride a bike but I wanted to ha ha! I'm gonna write down my symptoms so he gets them all but I can imagine he will take the Mick out of me for doing that (he's a patronising git!!!) Work are asking alot from me, their idea of a phased return is 5 mornings a week for the first week, then 2nd week 2 full days & three mornings, then week 3 back to full-time hours! I've agreed to it didn't feel I had much choice cause I will only get paid for what I work now. As silly as it sounds maybe all the added stress will bring on a relapse and get me a bloody diagnosis, maybe a blessing is disguise? Just trying to look for the good in it!

Stumbler

@Stumbler

Well, you'll never forget how to ride a bike. Work will be the same. For the Neuro, keep the list of symptoms down to a short, concise list, which he can keep on your records. But, ensure you come away knowing where you're going next. As for work, the phased return does sound incredibly optimistic. Obviously put together by someone who hasn't got a clue about MS-type conditions. Don't feel obliged to accept that plan if it quickly becomes clear it's not going to work. You have the law on your side, so it should be an agreed way forward, not an imposed plan! Just ensure you keep talking to whoever is liaising with you regarding the return. It's in everyone's best interest if it's a workable, achievable plan.

boodle06

@boodle06

Work did ask what my current symptoms are, I said about my speech, lower back & leg pain. I got the impression from them that because no one has formally diagnosed me with ms then that makes everything I'm experiencing could be sort of null and void.

Stumbler

@Stumbler

I don't believe it's a question of what the name of the condition is, it's more a question of you've been off work for a while, so they should accommodate you back in a mutually beneficial way. The law behind this doesn't specifically mention MS either. :)

msue62

@msue62

Don't forget he is just a person, mine told me very kindly after my mri scan, he was only a registrar and had to call the consultant in to tell me everything. It's quite hard for them too that may make you feel better. As for work they will be glad to see you back I am sure!