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WoolPhotos

New diagnosis and new relationship

Hello everyone. I’m new here. I’ve read some threads similar to my current dilemma but wanted to throw out my story if anyone else is feeling lost like me or has any advice. I had, what turned out to be my second episode/flare up, only a month after dating this guy. Over two more months of dating, I got all the tests, MRIs, LP, and just in November I got the official diagnosis of MS. Just yesterday I got my first injection with a nasty skin reaction. In the midst of this, I also had another abnormal papsmear and had to get a LEEP (they removed a layer of my cervix in hopes to prevent cancer). Now, he was very understanding during the healing process of the LEEP. I’m now wondering about telling him my MS diagnosis. We’ve only been dating 4 months, but he’s also 9 years younger than me (I’m 35, he’s 26). He’s very mature for 26 but I’m afraid this will be too much for him. Do I rip off the bandaid? Wait? Why is this even a question? I don’t know; it’s all so new!
@lightningduck

In this case I would think to tell him sooner rather than later because if you have a relationship with him, he will find out eventually and wonder why you didn't tell him. He sounds understanding, he might be able to give you good support as you deal with the emotional chaos of a new DX

@Stumbler

Hi @woolphotos and welcome. The longer you wait to tell him, the harder it's going to get until your burden becomes too huge. We all have little nuances about our characters, be they physical marks or blemishes. No-one is perfect. So, this is just another bit of what makes you you. You may want to watch these two short films that were created for Shift.MS regarding this problem of relationships and disclosure:- https://shift.ms/gallop-and-belong-2