@ChezN87 

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ChezN87

Housing

Hi everyone I’m in need of some impartial advice, I’m currently in a 2bed end terraced private let I’ve been pressing on with the council over the past couple of months (getting support letters etc) because a few months ago my landlord told me they’ll be needing to sell the house I’m in plus I have have two daughters one who is asd diagnosed as well as myself with ms so I really need a three bed so both my daughters get the space they need as it’s quite stressful on them both, I received a letter yesterday stating they have offered my a 3 bed four in a block ground floor in a village close by, i drove up yesterday to have a good look through the windows and it looks great, new kitchen, wet room doesn’t need a lot done to it, only problem is my ex husband who I share my oldest daughter with lives just two doors down from the new house, my mum seems dead against it saying it’s close for comfort plus it’s a bit out the way if I need help in case of relapse, she and I understand it’s my decision and I’ve thought all this anyway but I feel like I’m not in the position to pass it up as they’ve put down my needs and offered me one that they think is ideal, I have a good relationship with my ex and he’s a great dad to my daughter which might be bonus having him close by for her, im just so confused I just want a place I’m settled with no uncertainty of moving again, what do you guys think?
@grandma

Hi @chezn87 I have to say, go for it. For a start, its ground floor obviating the possible need for a lift in the future, you will have enough space for all of you, you get on with your ex, don't worry about distance with relapses in mind, think positive, if some stress is removed, which it obviously will be if you're in your own home on the ground floor the chance of relapse is reduced anyway. You can't live your life worrying about how you will cope in a relapse situation, that's not the way to go about it🥊😜

@Stumbler

@chezn87 , I'm with @grandma. Go for it. It gets you out of a stressful situation into something which is more suited to your needs, now and for the future. Your ex can also give you the "low-down" on the area.........