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Cariad

Coffee catch up - thoughts?

Since my MS began almost 3 years ago, I've had a rocky ride. Although, finally, I seem to have found a level of stability, there's no doubt that my life has changed a lot. One of the biggest things is the lack of ability to plan things/ commit to things. As no-one understands the reasons why I am useless at committing to things, I often make excuses or give an alternative reason rather than go into the more embarrassing details of some of my symptoms. I survive work (and enjoy and do well there despite a 4 month stint off sick last year!) but only because I have a 'get out clause' lol that if I need to leave, I can so there's a bit of a safety net. I've wondered if I could do with a social catch up with people who don't need the excuses etc, tried my local MS centre once but that wasn't what I was looking for - Iit just wasn't right for me...I do want fun, laughter, a gossip about nothing etc, I'm 25 and just looking at, eg catching up for a hot choc (complete with all the cream on top lol) and a slab of bad for you cake, exactly as you would with friends who were non-ms-ers with the bonus of a little understanding. As far as I can see, there's nothing like this in my area, just wondering if there's anyone in Cambridgeshire who's looking for the same - you have to start somewhere afterall :)
@Stumbler

Is Huntingdon any good for you? If so, try this place:- http://www.hpcmstc.co.uk/ They provide a range of therapies, which go from the complementary to the pampering. I frequent my local centre a lot at the moment. I'm trying HBOT and Pilates. I did join my Centre over 100 years ago, but came away feeling that it was full of sick people. I really wish that I had reviewed that decision, as there's so much experience available there. There's an active social side to my centre and it really is a very happy place.

@Cariad

Yep, that was where I went before - I wasn't put off by any of the ms side of things there although had (prior to my visit) been very anti just being with people that you only had ms in common with, I just didn't feel like it met the needs of a 25 year old. Everyone that I met was very friendly and we chatted about lots of ms and a few non ms related things but as all those that I met were 50+, although they were lovely, it just wasn't what I was looking for. Without limiting it to an agegroup, more so, a feeling, I'm almost thinking of a more youthful catch up over a coffee, potentially in a local cafe or something? Something that isn't limited to ms yet is open to ms...does that make any sense???! Haha :) Hard to explain but a coffee catch up where you're welcome to come and go as you please, there's no commitment, yet a warm welcome etc. I don't know of any like-minded MS-ers in my area so no idea if it's just be that could do with coming out of my 'ms symptom induced social recluse zone' lol so thought I'd put it out there as an idea?